1:50 AM
ok, quiche is in the oven
now... Here's the thing to remember when discussing policies surrounding suspensions, de-modding, etc
the point is always to protect some community from bad behavior
if that takes suspending for 300 years, so be it
if that takes a half-sentence warning, also good
recommended / default suspension lengths, prewritten warnings, processes for removing moderator privileges... All work toward that end.
They're not intended to impose fair or immutable punishments, nor do they make any real effort to do so.
These are little Q&A sites on a big Internet, not The World Government
As a result, we can and often are pretty fast & loose with the precise parameters of these things. Suspensions escalate from 7 to 30 days, and from 30 to 365: often 14 days would suffice, or 90, or 271... And those can all be imposed, if desired, but there's a very small cost to over- or under- suspending; the important thing is the message that it sends, not the precise number of days someone has to do any of a million other constructive things instead of participate here.
And the message is: please, work with us, or go do something else.
That's it, really. We're all humans, and all flawed, and the only way anything like this works is for us each to admit that & try to make due with what we got. Put aside our egos & get along with all these other flawed humans as we work toward some greater goal.
There's no ultimate rule book that'll solve that problem for us. It's a constant struggle, and fraught with danger.
As is anything involving groups of people.
So, we do our best, use these tools when talking doesn't suffice, eat our quiche and go to bed. The next day is another struggle.