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00:00
;p
@OptimusPrime that could mean anything! you've just confused us all
it looks like the software has a free version available. Also the user have some rep on SO
Even if it's a software recommendation, it answers the question.
whatever. at present, I'm not gonna do anything
Hey @JourneymanGeek did you just woke up or didn't go to bed yet?
00:19
@OptimusPrime just woke up
It's 6. Had to sleep.
Gud nightorning c y all
it's 3:22 I'll be having a cup of tea and some kind of food, I don't even care what anymore lol
(jk, I care <3)
you know these days I'm afraid I'll get suspended for posting a reasonable request without offending anyone or proposing anything radical, and I'm even uncomfortable posting this chat message haha
but like a user who's no longer a user once said, "you should stop worrying about a site so much"
01:09
@user1306322 and yet, here we are
@john at this point of time, I appreciate Peter fixing my terrible writing.
Especially in my current state of mind, my spelling and grammar is probably atrocious and probably I have some dangling sentences
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Sep 20 at 13:27, by 410
> It's all fun and games until some website loses a moderator.
@410 Its not just about losing moderators
We've had well loved, solid folks wander off cause real life
This is different
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01:44
Just remembered a fitting soundtrack to all of this weekend+.
.... hopefully "tu es bon comme du pain blanc" is not considered racist. <_<
@SonictheAnonymousHedgehog uhm
In this context...
rather than saying yes or no...
Yes, I tried reading the paragraph with and without it, and both made sense to me.
My intention here is to say that - the mod who was asked to leave, or the mods who left would not be coming back without change
and without that change - any talk of it is hypothetical
In this instance - I ask you keep that in mind when deciding
I'll review it when I'm in a better state of mind.
Alright, I'll approve. Feel free to override it if you think it's wrong.
Thank you
I have a lot to say, and a lot I wish to try to do, and I don't really know if I'm doing it.
Honestly if I wasn't setting a bad example, I was thinking of CWing these posts
But geek the mod would go "NOOOOO, CW IS NOT GET OUT OF REP FREE. THIS IS NOT RIGHT"
 
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04:11
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A: Stack Overflow Inc., sinat chinam, and the goat for Azazel

Monica CellioI was told offline I need to provide this information ASAP. Trying to be brief until after RH. Caleb described the issue, so I feel safe in expanding now. In January a mod asked a discussion question on the mod team: should we require that people use preferred pronouns? My answer said we must n...

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About what I expected. That resignation post on Lit had a couple of red flags in it.
Good luck to Monica who is probably sjw-mobbed outside of SE and will be for some days to come.
user206222
I am not the moderator in question.
04:42
@410 That's not helpful
there's nothing worse that can come out of this than someone getting harassed over this
user206222
This snippet will cause an already-angered group to seek the individual moderator in question. It is awfully close to violating the "never copy anything out of TL" rule in a way that slings crap in an undetermined direction. It is unscrupulous to post this, and whether intended or no, bears the seeds of a hunt. That direction is also likely to be me due to my resignation, which is incorrect, but is something I'm not in a position to be able to demonstrate. I hope you understand the position this puts me and other queer moderators in, and how it sets us up to receive additional anger. — Aza 12 mins ago
user206222
I'm documenting this here because I'm sincerely worried that Monica's post will lead angered people, regardless of the legitimacy of their anger, to seek an individual who is at fault and cited here. It is careless and reckless for her to have posted this -- or at my most forgiving, maybe she doesn't grasp this severity since she's been away. I also fully recognize that individual is most likely to be me.
user206222
A comment can be removed but a onebox stays on transcript.
@Aza honestly - so much of this is reckless and ill planned and...
sigh
SO uhm. As a fellow user, and someone who spends a lot of time here. I realise folks are angry and worked up and... Its tempting to opine and share the latest news. And I'm sure folks are interested
but the last thing that we need to do is fire up a mob with pitchforks and torches
No matter where you stand on this
user206222
Paraphrased,
user206222
04:49
It's not moderators I'm worried about as much as it is non-mod users, @Ward. Many moderators are currently vying for public support and pouring information out selectively to achieve that end. But many regular users are angry about this, and it's only a matter of time until that carelessness hurts someone. — Aza 25 secs ago
04:59
@Aza I don't think it's reckless or even unwelcome. As for the masses, do you think that keeping them in the dark would stop any damage? I've seen quite a lot of damage caused by keeping people in the dark for just a few hours.
user206222
This is a different kind of "damage," @JohnDvorak. What, to Stack Overflow's reputation? To community trust?
user206222
I sometimes don't think it's obvious the level of vitriol trans people receive online, particularly when someone passively or actively directs anger our way. I've had friends who needed to go into hiding -- physically, into a safehouse -- because of extreme anger.
user206222
I don't think this reaches that level, but I don't know. Someone making a post with easily-recognizable potential to do that is not a good sign for things to come.
user206222
At some point, this stops being about "how do we repair Stack Exchange?" and more about, "how do we keep each other, our physical persons, safe?"
Do you think the masses will start hurting trans people because of this?
user206222
05:04
It wouldn't be the first time. I don't know.
The alternative is to destroy all trust that everyone has in the company, and undo the community entirely.
user206222
I don't know what you mean to imply.
I really don't think you're in danger here. The only one this new information paints in bad light would be that one mod, and their identity purposefully hasn't been revealed
user206222
Y'know, man, I really wish I could wholeheartedly believe that. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. I'm going to go silent for a while, to see what happens with this info.
Without knowledge of the post on the moderator SO Team, I can't say for sure whether the claim is true or not.
05:21
@SonictheAnonymousHedgehog with full knowledge of everything that a mod would know
I don't really know what's happening
morning
One thing's for sure: the mob's pretty fired up against the company simply because they know they're being denied information, and information's what they're up for.
@JohnDvorak uhm
no
... or, was before I went to sleep
@JohnDvorak I'd actually say its multiple failures of the social contract
If a member of our community was vulnerable and we missed it. And we continue to miss it, we failed
05:27
You mean Monica?
@JohnDvorak Well, something triggered this off
So - I'd say its not just her
There's a critical thing here
Another 2000+ messages across 2 chatrooms overnight
It is so damned tempting to find someone to blame
I think i'll pass I have to actually get some work done today
@Magisch I'm sorry
@JohnDvorak I get some pushback for this but - we're all in this together
05:29
You mean, there are no bad guys and we just need to sit and wait for things to work out in the end?
@JohnDvorak Sit, no
hell no
But I don't recommend going out to find bad guys
If you know someone is hurt. Find out why. Treat them with the respect they deserve
I know a few people are hurt by this. In some cases, I wish I'd known earlier and done a better job of helping others do the right thing. I do hope I made enough of an effort in my time.
I also know there's some of this I cannot have done anything about
"Find out why" is exactly what the community is trying to do
@JohnDvorak and that dosen't mean sitting back
and its also an individual thing too.
What should the community do, then?
@JohnDvorak simply?
Look out for each other.
05:33
And they do
@JohnDvorak I've been a moderator for... god.. 4, 5 years?
And I miss stuff
And if I understand correctly - a lot of this is in the sphere of people I know and interacted with
and hearing all the partial stories, well
I don't even know
in SU and RA, we have this amazing sense of community. Folks really do watch out for each other
I've seen so many people want to dig up the latest gossip. To snipe, and watch things burn down
I've been in tears a couple of times today
SOmetimes cause someone was incredibly kind in all this
9 hours ago, by Sonic the Anonymous Hedgehog
Quite honestly, I'm waiting for the time when we can all return to the usual meta stuff (on the site).
@SonictheAnonymousHedgehog I do too
But this is also important
From what I've seen, what people really want is for the company to stop working against the community, and start treating it with respect.
@JohnDvorak well, yes
But that's an underlying tension and unhappiness.
05:41
And they see the company withholding information as a major issue even if if it's well-intended.
@JohnDvorak I'm usually a strong believer in "sunlight is the best disinfectant"
that's how I ended up here
But looking at the strong feelings of people
@JourneymanGeek I like that philosophy
WOuld you believe that looking at the undertones I see - it would likely make things worse, not better?
My best prediction - if the new information is true - is that people would seek out that the Mod's behavior won't repeat itself, and the mere fact that the company is finally talking would lift the mood immensely. As for what happens if the company keeps status quo - well, people are fearing for their worst and looking for backup plans should the company ditch them entirely.
@JourneymanGeek A couple of cases of that really have made me smile over the last ~72 hours. I think it's important that we keep finding reasons to smile.
05:56
(still thinking hard about the whole situation)
@JohnDvorak and honestly - most of us are pretty powerless to do anything
The best I can hope for the is the right people listen
Assuming there still is a shared goal, I expect people to listen. And the listening might not be the hardest part. processing all that listening to fit into your own beliefs and then admit you need to adjust your stance is the blockage here. Hard for individuals, huge task for enterprises.
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@JourneymanGeek Considering all that's been said publicly so far - I'm afraid you are right that the community is powerless and the change has to come from within the company.
@JohnDvorak and I have tried to make that clear
What do you suppose should be done then? Talk to other people within the company?
06:09
That is a bit of a problem with companies. They tend to have objectives that not in all cases align with objectives of individuals, either within or outside.
@JohnDvorak honestly I have no idea
@rene I don't think protecting Mod's actions should be in any company's agenda.
@JohnDvorak ah but there's a complication there
Best case is that they don't realize this is happening or that they intend to do something about it when time has been given to formulate a plan.
A moderator literally invests time and emotional energy into their sites
So one of my issues with how this happened is how that social contract felt broken
06:12
I mean the Mod. I'm not saying that the company should ditch the needs of its moderators!
@JourneymanGeek maybe SE felt there is no social contract between a mod and the company, so there was nothing to break from their point of view. The free service for y'all to use is the only obligation.
@rene yup. And that's something I feel needs addressing
At this point I don't know what the correct thing to do is.
@JohnDvorak I prefer to stay away from singling out / blaming individuals.
@JohnDvorak no
We should not
That's tempting but it's a path we absolutely need to avoid
06:21
@JohnDvorak that goes for the 0,015% that is invested in this plus SE staff.
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!!/coffee
waffles
...welp
@rene brews a cup of Latte for @rene
there we go
What do you suppose should be done?
I wish I knew
I hope someone knows
06:27
Make sure that the company is aware of the situation and see where they go with it?
Yup
I think we are all trying
First we need to wait for the "official" SE response / clarification / their side of the story. Then we need to evaluate that against our own understanding of the issue at hand, make sure we fully grasp their drivers / goal / concerns and make a judgement call if the envisioned route is one that you believe is a good fit going forward and is within your own fair personal agenda. Once that is settled you can start to think about how you merge that back into the community at large.
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It is basically take a step back, evaluate, make up your own mind and then either engage or disengage.
@rene at this point it's really hard
Group dynamics are hard.
06:36
And sometimes underestimated
I think it's fair to say that the main driver is that people simply don't know what the heck is going on
SE did themselves no favor with previous blunders though. If this happened 2 years ago the response would have been entirely different
@Magisch hence why I see it as much in terms of the social contract as anything
@Magisch You see, that is part of the problem. Does SE really believe they had previous blunders? Maybe the company doesn't see it that way.
@rene If that isn't the case then SE will just become another avenue in the escalating culture wars
That would be the darkest timeline and I hope it never comes to pass
06:41
@Magisch That is our expectation, yes and a fair analysis. Still, we don't know their drivers.
Fun fact: while a company is just a collection of individuals, which can cause inconsistencies when viewed as a single entity - that same thing also applies to humans. They too behave in ... interesting ... ways because they're just a collection of parts that don't even stay the same throughout time.
Yes, same for flowers ...
@Magisch that scares me
When you chop a plant in half, both halves act as an entire singular plant, even forming new roots where it previously had none. When a human brain gets chopped in half, you end up with two slightly different people sharing a single spinal column.
It feels like recently every outrage generating event is similar to the last, and bigger every time. Every time we stray a little further from the things that actually matter. Every time people are a little more hurt and become more distrustful of the system. Every time SE employees feel a little more unwelcome in the community they administrate.
And now we're at a point where any shadow is a target, every bit of opacity a conspiracy, and everyone is either for or against the latest iteration of the culture war playing out here. It's saddening and it just keeps getting worse.
06:46
@Magisch well put
07:09
@Magisch yup
But that also makes it harder for them to become part of those communities
07:22
I acknowledge that this was written from memory, in a hurry, and probably not in the best of moods, but this is a misrepresentation of what happened: I went through the relevant parts of the transcript from the 18th and the words bigot, transphobe, or any similar accusation were never hurled in your general direction. No sentence like “Your ideals are wrong.” was uttered. Overall I perceived the discussion as intense, but not descending into rudeness, name-calling, or similar. — Wrzlprmft 1 hour ago
And yet knowing I don't know anything is ... liberating to me.
I'm glad to see that things have calmed down since yesterday evening (CET).
07:38
there's a spam on meta
@OptimusPrime something hasn't changed
flag it
I prefer to wait for now
and somebody casted a close vote lol
@OptimusPrime why so?
If SE wants to implement gender based and other ways to support LGBTQ, then it can't be considered as a Professional network anymore. It'll become a social network. There're many other things that need to be fixed asap.
@JohnDvorak I'm waiting for something else. Until then, no
@OptimusPrime I don't think the compulsion to respect one's preferred pronoun in moderator messages turns the site into a social network..
07:44
@OptimusPrime A lot of SE dosen't cover the profession or even the technological space
Not even counting chat - which is by design a social space
I didn't mean chat.
And honestly - the age of innocence, where we could hide behind being a small purely technical site is gone.
@OptimusPrime and yet the chat is a critical part of the network
@JourneymanGeek That's true
Yes, there is absolutely politics out there
and we do get sucked into a lot of it from outside
07:46
@JohnDvorak my point is, instead of calling someone he/she/they we can simply call them with their name.
@OptimusPrime So - I have a really simple view here.
@OptimusPrime Perhaps. I wouldn't wage a war over it though.
You're talking to a fellow human being. They have emotions, preferences, things that make them feel safe and valued.
These things are much more important than anything else
So using the right term means a lot to them
The thing is though
Stack exchange is not really a social space
@Magisch We do have communities no?
07:49
the optimum exchange was always 0% any social things and 100% business. Every reference, holdup or mention of social structures is considered a failing
@Magisch most of us don't just stay for the privilege of answering questions ;p
Everything on here is as impersonal as possible
Most of the best of us have less ... um
functional? reasons for being here
I need a userscript to see usercards while reviewing, for instance
@Magisch and yeah, in many places its content over the person by design
07:50
@Magisch I don't think some of the sites would work at all without an associated chatroom.
@JourneymanGeek It may hurt newbies. But in chat, almost all of talk with humans, bots, dogs, cats, birds, robots and ultimately, with aliens (like me).
@OptimusPrime lets consider something
In professional space, they can't expect someone to call them as they want
Most of this drama happened with moderators, in moderator spaces
So Its hardly newbies
@JohnDvorak I agree, but they're the deviations from the model. The model was made for SO and the trilogy sites
07:51
A critical thing here is if we dismiss folks concerns, we lose them.
@Magisch I didn't quit SU cause of my community
@JourneymanGeek At the same time, it's not right to dismiss the concerns of well experienced Mods who worked hard for the benefits of this community
I don't know the entire thing and I'm currently on this stage
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as a practical upshot the fallout from this will likely continue into the new year
@OptimusPrime in which case I suggest looking around a bit
I know they don't hold elections over the holidays usually so if the current resignations hold it'll probably be february before new elections are held
@Magisch Oh god no.
I don't think the community would survive that
07:54
for instance TWP is down from 5 active mods to 2
If community's fears come to fruition, even if there are elections, nobody runs, and even if somebody does run, they'll resign when they learn what's happening behind the curtain.
There're lots of mods out there who doesn't care anything. And even more people are there who aren't aware of such happenings.
In one of a comment, Jeff clarified that he won't blame the company if it wants a change after 10 years
Some people are supporting the company and some supports the mods. And the majority didn't took a side yet
@JohnDvorak In that sense, it's probably better to have the elections next year so the dust can settle before
@OptimusPrime Jeff's been out of the company a while
and we don't for instance see an election where all newly elected mods immediately step down again
07:57
And honestly - unless someone told him, there's no way he'd have any clue of the situation
Yeah. He left the company many years ago and asked the company to remove his diamond 1 or 2 years ago when he took a break from internet
@Magisch settle, or fester.
Still his opinions can be considered because he's the one behind all this thing. I don't think Joel could make this without him.
There's hundreds of questions that doesn't have an answer yet. Assume a trans newbie asked a question, didn't get an answer instead got some downvotes, then they decided to claim the community insulted them for being a trans, somewhere else?
@OptimusPrime that's unhelpful
When we talk with user12345, we don't know from which country they're. Or we don't know their gender or age or anything. Still they don't have any problem and they'll get an answer they want
08:04
That's precisely the line of argument that makes things less safe for folks
But if they did - everything's out in the open
fmpov, I don't need to know the gender or race or culture or religion or political views of someone to provide an answer.
While talking to a third person in comment box, I use OP instead of he/she/they
But in some circumstances - some folks may find it useful in interaction
@JourneymanGeek It's totally rare.
08:09
Not always
So one of the takeaways from this is - how much we miss in the spaces we're in
and these small things can matter to folks
I somewhat agree with that in chat
Chat doesn't maintain a professionalism
@OptimusPrime chat is an extension of the site
You served as a mod for years and I think you sent 100s or 1000s of mod messages. While you're sending a mod message, you're directly sending to the person and you or your is enough, right?
I read in someone's resignation letter that they need this to include in Mod message too
@OptimusPrime we actually mostly use templates, carefully designed to be neutral
But - sometimes you need nuance and empathy and connection
Especially when you're reaching out to someone who was hurt
Being a moderator isn't just about dealing with posts.
And least lately I feel like that's something parts of the SO management is blind about.
@JourneymanGeek yeah. The future of the community depends of those 5-6 people
08:21
@OptimusPrime uhm?
And that's the problem here. Monica didn't received the respect she deserved
@OptimusPrime Well - a lot of the pushback is due to that
The director simply left an answer on Robert Harvey's resignation notice saying Sorry to see you go. But we will implement it at any cost
@OptimusPrime I wouldn't really want to chalk it down to one person just yet
Sadly, the person who swings the blade is not always the one who passes the sentence
Once again
Its far too easy to try to find someone to blame
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I'd really love to dissuade that line of reasoning
I don't know the people involved but Monica confirmed the Sara is the one she mentioned in meta post
And the answer on MSO was filled with rude and abusive comments in the past, 500+ downvotes and everyone's angry with Sara
In other words, Sara understood the heat of SO and how much we love our mods
@OptimusPrime I handed in my diamond early on. I didn't expect the sheer level of emotion and the depth of the reaction.
And well
I'm actually pretty in touch with the community I'd think
@JourneymanGeek so it was you!
@AndrasDeak I'd happily take the blame if it helped other people heal
But I'd have kept the diamond, and worked on damage control then
@JourneymanGeek as everyone know, the main communities are S(O|U|F)
08:37
@OptimusPrime and?
I've always felt the smaller communities matter too
in this 3, SO is the community 60+% people interact, afaik
This is Stack Exchange
In fact
> site design / logo © 2019 Stack Exchange Inc; user contributions licensed under cc by-sa 4.0 with attribution required. rev 2019.9.30.35064
SO folks didn't took it much serious until they saw the resignation by Robert
@JourneymanGeek yeah. I'm not talking about that. SO get's more than 50% dupes and ot and spam when considering those things entire SE gets.
forgot to add, rude/abusive comments too
@OptimusPrime Its worth considering though...
Resignation is pretty much a soap box
As a side note, any idea how the "destroy Stack Exchange because they dared to increment the content license version number even though they technically weren't allowed to do so" project is going?
08:40
Its a way to be heard
The folks started acting when Robert posted it in meta and Sara shared her answer
@JohnDvorak Well , since I don't represent authority here any more...
I honestly think the fuss over the version number was pretty ... strange
and was just a reflection of people generally being unhappy
I hope you do sign up again once this drama is over
@JohnDvorak as far as I know some people are exploring suing for copyright infringement to bankrupt SE on statutory damages
silly
Robert moderated the site for 8+ years, from the bronze age till date and he have significant contribution in keeping the site clean and very welcoming to new users
08:42
@JohnDvorak I hope we're in a situation where I'm comfortable with it
I do think that there's a good many things we need to re-examine though
I don't even know the difference between v3 or v4 and I don't care about it
I'm willing to help with the discussions
@JohnDvorak I have great contacts if needed
I never cared about license changes to begin with. All my stuff is additionally available under cc0
But I don't think now is the time
08:46
It's not about what license, it's about imposing changes.
Without even warning in advance.
@john Its also about trust
@john warning: changes will occur in the (near) future
@rene not like that. In license change, they made a meta post along with the sentence Effective from today
@OptimusPrime which is literally how it has worked in the past
@OptimusPrime That's how I remember it.
08:49
They could've informed it the community earlier by making a post We are planning to move from v3 to v4. What do you think
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A: Legal page says user content is under cc-by-sa-3.0, but other pages say cc-by-sa-2.5

Jeff AtwoodGood catch, I updated it to refer to 2.5 for consistency if nothing else. Not sure if the minor tweaks of 3.0 over 2.5 are particularly relevant to us, or not. edit: as of yesterday, we re-licensed under cc-by-sa-3.0.

as of yesterday
@JourneymanGeek I can see a good progression then. :D
This is even funnier
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A: Why don’t we call our licence by name?

ShadowDunno when exactly, but it was fixed and rolled out to all sites:

personally, I don't care about the license change unless SE tell me the contents you posted here are our property. You don't have the right to share it somewhere else
08:53
@OptimusPrime That's license transgression.
You're still licencing your content to SE with a perpetual irreocable licence persuant to a CC by SA licence.
@JourneymanGeek it's still better. cc-wiki doesn't contain any version number
@OptimusPrime CC wiki is obsolete
@OptimusPrime 'As far as I can tell, "cc-wiki" is an old working name for the license that eventually became CC-By-SA 2.5.' meta.stackexchange.com/a/211836/202324
08:54
I don't know about licensing. When I open source stuff I made via Github, I simply put an MIT license
Frankly, I never read MIT license yet
@OptimusPrime and that's kind of a thing here
@OptimusPrime I used to do that, until I started a life long thing; read every license and ended up using ALv2. It's damn large, but it's good.
@OptimusPrime this is a rare extreme :/
@john you mean Apache?
@OptimusPrime despite popular belief and demand SE doesn't need to run everything past the community beforehand.
@OptimusPrime Aye ALv2 is a well known, no acronym conflicts, shorter name for Apache License version 2.
I think MPL is similar, but I exhausted all of my brains in ALv2 so that's my choice. x_x
09:02
@rene yeah. re licencing alone wouldn't made such problems. But when joined together with new CoC, everyone started talking about
Might be best to wait with relicensing until people and the company can work together again.
It's all about timing
@john I don't know what's written in MIT. I used it in most my rep repositories.
And some of them doesn't contain any license at all
@john no need to check and update versions ;p
@OptimusPrime software licenses change version very seldomly, compared to CC. Seriously, don't do that.
there's not a need to upgrade version, too
(for most software. I dunno what are the reasons behind SE updating to 3 and then to 4)
(couldn't care less)
09:11
I'm planning to open source a background image carousel I wrote in less than 20 lines of code
And I'm not going to put any license in it
If we really care about other people, let them use it without any worries
@OptimusPrime am I allowed to farsee what'll happen?
any suggestions are welcome. It'll be released in my github account, in which almost all of the repos doesn't contain a license
Is that a yes?
Your fellow developers will kindly ask you to grant them a perpetual open source license before becoming contributors.
They'll probably propose MIT or BSD-2-clause, and you'll eventually fold to the demand and license your software under an open source license.
09:19
@OptimusPrime a significant part of the FOSS movement is a wee bit political
@john If someone ask, I'll do it. no issues with that. ;-)
@JourneymanGeek politics is involved in almost all the things
@OptimusPrime longer explanation: if you don't license the code, and someone is forced to change it, they can not change it from your state without making a leap of faith in that you (or any of your successors, this is a tricky bit but important) won't sue them by copyright infringement. They would need to get to your state by iterating from zero.
The niceness thing has no legal value because it isn't forcefully transmitted to your heirs, unless you leave that written.
Happens that a BSD-2-clause or an unlicense is going to be shorter and more standardized than a testament.
@john The best way: cc0 or public domain dedication
09:35
@Magisch u r right

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